Saturday 5 March 2011

Disagreeing is Healthy

Some time ago, I was sitting at a local coffee shop reading some wonderful CS Lewis, when a couple (I'll call them Mr. and Mrs. S.) that I know came in too. We had coffee together and talked. It was awesome, so I'd like to share something I got out of that talk that left me reminiscing some time afterwards.

I was telling them how I believe my generation of believers needs to take more ownership of our faith and not just go along with what we're being spoon fed etc. Then, Mr. S. asked me 'So is there anything that you have disagreed with your parents about?' I said, 'Well, not really, actually.' That's what really got me thinking.

If I am to completely take ownership of my faith (ownership meaning; to call it my own; have Christ as my identity; live out my faith in daily life; believe in Him not because it's what I've been taught, but because I personally know He's true... etc), shouldn't I have had disagreements with my parents, or others who teach me? Maybe I'm sounding like a rebel. Allow me to explain.

We're all human, and all make mistakes and all mess up and all get things wrong. No matter how knowledgeable a person may be, they can still get things wrong (sometimes it's the people with the most 'logical' understanding that get the most things wrong, in some aspects). So with that in mind, we can't believe all that we've heard to be 'divine knowledge' and with nothing wrong with it. Often times the person may be bang on, but other times not so much. So how do we know what's what?

Through disagreeing. Here's why; when you disagree (or at least are somewhat skeptical) with what you're being taught, then you can go straight to Jesus with it. Praying and reading the Bible to hear what He has to say on the matter. Jesus is the Master of Answers so I think we can trust Him to be accurate. More accurate than any human being.

Now I'm not saying that everyone should ignore what they're being taught, or not to listen to what God has shown others, or what others have learned from His Word. No, we shouldn't completely stop up our ears from anything 'human'. God can use anybody.  But I think the more we get to know Jesus, and develop a closer relationship with Him, the more we are able to hear His voice/opinion of what is being said. I think it really comes down to relationship (but I'll talk about that more in another post perhaps).

It may be that there ends up being nothing to disagree about with what a person says, and that you've found (through looking to Jesus) that they are right on. Nothing wrong with that. What I'm saying here is more just setting one's heart and mind to a state of deciphering what to believe as true or what to believe as false; not believing in something because someone else, who seems to be more knowledgeable, says it's true, thinking that it's just easier to listen to them without discovering anything out on your own. That's just being lazy. If you look for truth half-heartedly, or not at all, you will most likely find dull and unclear answers. But if you look for truth with your whole heart and more, then you will find whole hearted, strong, and real answers.

“So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened (Luke 11: 9. 10)."

Please feel free to disagree (and find the answers yourself) with what I've said. I'd love to hear your thoughts! :)

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  2. Whoops, sorry about that last non-comment- hadn't finished writing when I clicked post :-)

    Thanks for the post! And I have to say, you were (are) the first friend I met that would challenge (in a good way) what I was saying and make me really THINK about what my words meant. To be honest, sometimes I would be uncomfortable that you would actually dare to disagree with me :-) but I'm learning that's a good thing 'cause it makes me re-evaluate what I actually believe. Thank you for being a friend who shows she cares by being honest.

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  3. (First of all, it was funny; I was SO confused as to who you were at first 'cause I hadn't recognized your middle name... But then I checked your blog and saw tons of DHT stuff..... ;))

    You're so sweet. Thank you. I am glad I have been able to challenge you! (sometimes I wonder if I'm too pushy with debating/criticizing people about such things.... :/ all in balance I guess). ha. and YES. I do DARE to disagree with the esteemed, Ms. Abby :P.
    Please disagree with me too :D. (lol that sounds funny ;)).

    And thanks for reading! I haven't been posting in ages, so knowing that people actually will read my blog, helps me get back on track. Looking forward to reading some more of YOUR blogging ;).

    Keep on being awesome!

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